What We Know for Sure About Nightlife
I like nightlife - Doesn’t everyone? I like to go out and blow off some steam, meet new people, relax and sometimes, get far more sloshed than I need to be. (Thank you to my friends who never let me forget that). I think that is why everyone goes out, right? Okay, some people may go out to pursue the other species, or same species, but you know, that is just a given if you are single and eye candy is dangled in front of you… Even for some people who aren’t single; it is still a reality.
There are a lot of faux paus that occur nightly…everywhere. So I asked my friends, clients, partners, and 704events.com faithful to weigh in with me on the do’s and don’ts of going out and sequentially, dating. We have realized that it has gotten to a point that the not so appealing actions of some are making it annoying and unbearable for many.
Don’t lie - You know you have committed the nightlife crimes a time or two; punishable by nicknames that make you want to cringe, waking up next to someone that makes your stomach turn more than it already is, embarrassing stories that never get too old to tell by your friends, bruises and bumps (and sometimes more), time spent in jail, hangovers that make you want to die, waking up saying ‘how did I get X on my X’, and oh, so many more punishments.
Here are some tips and truth’s that are uncensored about Charlotte nightlife from the nightlife network’s faithful:
No matter what you think or no matter how much you have drank yourself to think, you are no better than anyone else. Stay in line and quit bitching about the wait. - R.T.
If you notice an ex-flame or crush at bar and you are tipsy, just walk away so you don’t make an ass out of yourself with your drunken antics. - T.L.
Never be afraid to be yourself on the dance floor. Even if you don’t know the ‘latest moves’ doesn’t mean you can’t do your own thing. Most people are attracted to individuality anyway. - D.B.
Never assume that someone is straight, or gay for that matter just because of who they are with or what they are wearing. - D.B.
Us girls look for a wedding ring when we see a guy we are interested in. It is pretty obvious when a guy takes off his wedding ring for the night. It is called a tan line. - A.C.
Always have a fake phone number memorized to give to someone that is begging you for your number that you are not into for the times that ‘NO’ is not registering. - K.S.
Does anyone else notice that girls voices get so whiny when they are drunk? It makes me sick. - D.F.
Girls need to be classy when a guy hits on her. It is a complement, so take it with grace and stop being high and mighty. - W.C.
The attitudes of many of the nightlife people make me sick. I don’t care where you work, don’t be a prick. - C.C.
Most people think that finding someone at a bar is useless but I think it is great. You get to find out exactly what you are in for when you girlfriend or boyfriend gets hammered. Issues come out, attitudes come out and potential relationship problems come out. I pre-qualify my dates this way. - R.D.
Enough with the giggling girls that travel in packs. It’s hard to handle one, much less 10 of ya’ll. - L.R.
Remember that it is NEVER attractive to be trashed. If you must drink to have a good time, at least regulate yourself and keep your cool. Not only will you feel better the next day, but you will actually remember the awesome time you had the night before. - D.B.
Don’t cheat when you are at a club. Charlotte is a small town, people are taking pictures and you will get busted. I know because I got busted in print cheating. - R.F.
Stop the discrimination on looks. - D.V.
If you get someone’s number while you are out drinking, don’t use it until your sober. There is nothing worse than a drunk stalker and your chances of anything happen are none. - M.R.
If you can barely walk because your smashed, don’t try to text and walk. You will fail. - E.G.
Skanky is never in season. Be classy because it is more appealing and sexy. - E.Y.
No one should dance drunk ever. - N.K.
It is beyond creepy to have a guy come up behind me and start grinding on me to get my attention and you are likely to get smacked. Here is a fashionable idea, smile and introduce yourself. - B.A.
Enough with the PACKS OF GIRLS! Can you not go anywhere alone? It is intimidating enough to hit on one girl but to hit on one girl and impress her friends is insane. - D.K.
Don’t ever start a conversation with ‘Hey, aren’t you on my Facebook or Myspace?’ It’s lame. - D.B.
Be original. Does anyone else notice that most guys and girls look the same in Charlotte? Annoying. - S.S.
Ah, the interesting nature of ‘liquid courage’. A time for people to puff out their chests and act big. Keep yourself in check. - S.D.
Don’t throw out names of who you know, who is inside and who you are friends with. Don’t try it. You’d have a pass or be on the list if you were supposed to be with them. - K.L.
If you have drama in your life, alcohol intensifies it. Keep your issues at home and away from people who want to just have a good time. - S.P.
Don’t try to pick fights with bouncers. We are bigger than you and there is more of us. You don’t want none and you will look like a punk in front your friends. - R.N.
If you bump into someone, say ‘excuse me’ or ‘I am sorry’, instead of shooting a death glare like it is YOUR fault. - J.H.
Girls get cheaper cover normally and sometimes for free. So, stop trying to convince everyone you are hot enough to get in free. Take the discount and smile. - B.S.
Fellas, fellas, fellas. Do you think girls do not see you jumping around the club spitting game at every girl? We do. We watch. Slow your game and your roll and you will get further. - M.C.
Guys, I know when you get drunk, many of you think you are the definition of sexy but when you are pounding the dance floors, be mindful that your sweat is not sexy. - N.K.
If you are going to hit on a girl, be sure to include her friends. Buy them all a drink and pull them all in with your group of friends. - B.G.
Enough with the cameras. I know drunk girls like to take as many pictures as possible and I know that websites need to get their names out there but is so annoying at this point. You have a memory or should, so sub that for taking a few thousand pictures. - T.M.
You should not be allowed to buy rounds of shots when you are drunk or you should always have a level-headed friend with you that is sober so you don’t end up with a $575 bar tab like me. - R.T.
Don’t light up a cigarette right next to someone. I think that’s pretty self explanatory… - B.G.
Don’t be afraid to try something new. - D.B.
Lucas from Tilt, let me know about a great series of videos on YouTube called, ‘The Bartender Hates You‘ - HA-larious. Type it into YouTube and watch what your bartenders inevitably go through nightly. Be grateful most don’t act like that guy…
Okay, let’s let the professionals weigh in. CharlotteDateDoctor.com sent in some awesome tips for both men and women about dating. It is hard, it can be scary and there are soooo many people out there that ruin it for everyone. Break through the maze of crazies with these pieces of great advice!
DOs for Women…
DO initiate, initiate, initiate! Men love it - and you could meet some interesting ones.
DO remember that the only think you should think about on a first date is ‘do I want a second date’…
DON’Ts for Women…
DON’T assume every man who approaches you is a bar sleazebag. After all - you’re there, too!
DON’T wave thanks for a drink bought for you - make a point of saying thank you in person even if you aren’t interested (and ESPECIALLY if you are!).
DOs for Men….
DO be direct - ‘Hi, I’d like to meet you’ - it’s statistically the best type of approach.
DO (when approaching a woman) establish a timeframe - e.g., “I have to meet my friends in X minutes….” - it lets her know she isn’t stuck talking to you and allows her to pay attention to what else you say.
DON’Ts for Men….
DON’T compliment her on her looks, when approaching OR on a date - find something else interesting.
DON’T buy and send a drink - hand deliver it.
There it is, folks! Now, will there be a change this weekend or next? Probably not, but let’s call it a work on progress…